We teach this strategy as a part of the courses, and I think my first Newsletter story may have covered the same topic over a year ago but I suppose it’s great to revisit this strategy during this time of the year when we will be seeing our family as…
I am going to be a new dad again. I remember I wrote a story about turning back the clock and looking after a baby again, but all I really had to do was wait a bit and my chance appeared. So in about 6 months’ time there will be…
Quality time can be as long or as little as you can manage, at the end of the day it all counts. But there are a few rules to making a moment, long or short a quality time. Focused attention Make to focus 100% on you children. Whatever we decide…
I remember we were having a hard time with one of the girls. It was like nothing we did worked. Every instruction went in one ear and out the other. We were determined to get to the bottom of this. Even her day care had said maybe it had something…
In our parenting courses we talk about the importance of ‘connecting moments’, which like all new skills, takes a while to learn. It isn’t difficult, but for some of us, it can be very different to how we normally communicate with our children. Here is an example from my own…
2am, I hear a cry. I wake up with sleepy eyes and go about helping with the night shift. Usual tasks that I perform are changing his nappy, burping him and making my darling a cup of tea. This is the usual routine that I have been performing with my…
I have been talking this week about quality time and how spending time with our children can help them to be more willing to listen. It’s all related to a bigger picture around relationship. When explaining this theory, I’ve found it’s easier for parents to understand when we use ourselves…
人类婴儿出生后非常依赖父母。 他们在出生后的头两年经历了极大程度的大脑发育，成长和神经塑形。 婴儿的大脑发育（就像他们的社会，情感和认知发育）取决于与主要照顾者（通常是父母）之间的亲密关系或依恋关系。 越来越多来自发展心理学，神经生物学和动物表观遗传学的研究证据表明，忽视，家长的不一致和缺乏爱可能导致长期的心理健康问题，而且会降低总体潜力和幸福感。 在本文中，作者参考了多个学科中有关这个见解的证据，并得出结论认为，婴儿及其父母在宝宝出生后头两年所能得到的支持是社区公共健康群体的重点目标。
言辞是很有创造性的。他们不仅能用来创造，修复，释放，安抚，疗愈，教导，指引，赋权，还能成为以前从未有过的东西。言语也可是破坏性的，推翻，使人沮丧，给关系带来绝望和损害，甚至更多的不良影响。
Whanau Marama Parenting所传授的最重要的技能之一 就是能暂停我们手中正在做的事，并转向我们的孩子（青少年），然后把百分之百的注意力集中在他们所问的事上，或者向我们展示的东西上，又或者讲述的故事上。这甚至可以是很简单的事情，就好比他们问我们是否可以打开一盒新的麦片，或者向我们展示他们朋友给他们的东西，再或者告诉我们学校发生的事情。关注他们可能只需要几秒钟或几分钟时间。因为是百分百的关注，所以在这几秒钟或几分钟内的关注质量是相当高的，而这使我们的孩子（青少年）能够感到他们对我们来讲是重要的和有价值的，我们想听听他们要与我们沟通些什么。