We all want to trust our adolescent to make wise decisions about their life, their choice of subjects at school, their friends and their future. We want to trust them to have a good attitude and always try to do the right thing. To find ways to get on well…
Translated by Haiying Dong
每位家长都努力教育孩子有关情商的知识，Facebook上的一位父亲向全世界展示了他是如何进行的：在一个很温馨的视频中，记录了这位父亲Randy Gaines和他女儿之间的谈话，他向小姑娘解释生气是可以的。 (more…)
在WMP(Whanau Marama Parenting)《有效的教导》这一课程中，我们一直强调家长和孩子“保持心连心”的重要性。孩子心中对我们的爱让我们教导孩子变得更容易些。 使孩子和我们心连心最重要的方式是陪伴孩子并给予他们正面的关注，让孩子感到他们对我们来说很重要。而给孩子正面关注最有效的方法之一是实践“暂停，转身，百分百关注”。也就是说，当孩子需要我们帮助时，或想和我们分享他们的事情时，我们停下并给予孩子正面的回应。
It is very important that we positively connect with our children by acknowledging them in a loving and supportive way. In fact, we are encouraged by New Zealand research to even work consistently towards increasing our positive comments or positive acknowledgements. (1) Notice the word ‘connecting’ in the examples of…
‘칭찬은 고래도 춤추게 한다’ 속담처럼 사람들은 칭찬이 가진 힘을 믿지만 막상 아이를 칭찬하는데 있어선 인색하기 싶다. 아이가 잘하는 것에 대해선 당연하게 여기고, 못하는 것에만 자꾸 눈길을 주고 혼내게 되는 경우가 많다. 코스에 왔던 아빠 중 한 분이 ‘우리 아이는 지금 6살인데 고집이 세고, 샤워하는 걸 싫어해요’라고 불만을 이야기했다. 아이가 혹시…
When I was parenting my children this whole idea of learning how to calm down when I was feeling angry, frustrated, annoyed and upset never really occurred to me. I remember clearly that it was their fault that I was annoyed with them and frequently told them so. I told…
by Julie Cole
Translated by Haiying Dong
以前我曾说过，当你见到孩子时，总表现出一副很开心的样子，这是非常重要的。
无论是当孩子步入学校时，还是当我从童子军活动中接到他们时，我都会表现出见到他们是如何异于寻常的兴奋。 有时甚至不得不假装如此 – 尽管那时我希望他们能再消失一小时，但他们不需要知道这点。 早上，我非常努力地尝试在说“你怎么还不换衣服？”或者“你怎么还不整理床铺？”前给孩子一个“早安”拥抱。 (more…)
Jinan, Steve and Jay talk about the positive changes at home once they have attended the parenting course. Parenting Adolescents Term 1, 2016
Carla talks about her overall experience about attending the parenting course and also her favourite learnt skills and strategies. Effective Discipline Term 3, 2016
Eketerina talks about her overall experience and own story about attending the parenting course. Effective Discipline Term 3, 2016