Punishment Strategies that are not consistent with Whanau Marama – Parenting’s Kaupapa.
Telling our child off may seem effective in the short term, but a high frequency of use reduces its effectiveness. It also tends to create hostility between us and our tamariki.
“You didn’t put your bike away in the shed so you can’t ride it for a week.”
“You were both fighting over the computer so you both can’t use it until I see some better behaviour from you.”
Planned ignoring involves the withdrawal of us giving attention to any attention-seeking behaviour that we see as being inappropriate. The message we are giving to our child may not only be detrimental to our heart connection with them but also may teach them that they only deserve our attention and unconditional love when they behave how we want me to.
Child sits on time out chair or goes to their bedroom, or other room, for a set period of time, usually calculated as one minute per year of child’s age with the hope they learn not to do that behaviour again.
Research clearly documents that such disciplinary practices as hitting, smacking, slapping, pinching, inflicting burns and other abusive practices do physical, emotional and psychological damage to the child that can last a life time.
This tends to involve the teen being forbidden to go out or attend desired activities